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There’s no doubt that an awareness of and familiarity with sexual anatomy can make you a better lover. Knowing where your partner’s most sensitive areas are, how they are likely to respond to stimulation and touch – and what happens when they do – means that you will be able to give him or her maximum pleasure. And, if you realize that your partner is an individual who certainly will respond to particular caresses, perhaps in a very individual way, your lovemaking will become much more effective and mutually satisfying.
Men find it somewhat easier to understand their own sexual anatomy since their sexual organs hang outside the body and are clearly and constantly visible. But both women and men are less familiar with female anatomy, and this is because so many of the important parts lie hidden within a woman’s body.
Just as in other areas of anatomy, the genitals of men and women are individual; they come in a range of shapes and sizes. Normal variation means that a few women have exceptionally large or small vaginas, just as the occasional man has an exceptionally large or small penis. Women rarely express dissatisfaction with the size and shape of their external genitals — maybe because comparison with those of other women is not usual, so ignorance is bliss. However, the vast majority of men are dissatisfied with the quality of their sex organs, and many feel that a small or average penis is a drawback to their sexual value.
Fortunately, there are many women who couldn’t care less or who hardly notice the size of their partner’s penis. Indeed, some women are physically uncomfortable with a big penis; a smaller penis is easier for a woman to take when it comes to oral sex, for instance. Furthermore, many of a woman’s sensations from intercourse come from the clitoris and from the nerve endings that are mainly in the first couple of inches of the vagina, so the length of the penis really is irrelevant. It is a man’s skill and patience as a lover, not the size of his penis, that is responsible for giving his partner sexual satisfaction.
On the other hand, many women are dissatisfied with their breasts and it may be that some of the dissatisfaction that both sexes have regarding their visible anatomy is the result of foreshortened viewing; both penises and breasts are normally viewed by their owners from the top down. What really matters, though, is taking pride and delight in your own individuality, and not worrying about what your genitals look like compared with others, and that everything functions normally.
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